You’ve heard of little things called erogenous zones before, but do you know where they are on a man’s body?
There are apparently nine areas that turn a man on in the bedroom. Some of them are obvious – if you’re not touching those areas you’re definitely doing it wrong – but some of them may surprise you. Sexperts spoke to Women’s Health about which areas to focus on to really get a man going.
Here are the nine places you should be focusing your attention.
The mouth is a very important erogenous zone. Kissing boosts levels of dopamine in the brain, a neurotransmitter that boosts desire and the reward system in the brain. Try tracing his lips slowly with your tongue, or softly bite his lower lip, sexologist Carol Queen suggests. And of course, don’t forget full on making out can be just as fun.
If you’ve ever had someone play with your ears and liked it, then it makes sense your man would like it too. In fact, in a survey ears came in just behind the scrotum for places that can help men climax. Try gently nibbling or licking his ear. Or try whispering something sexy to spice things up.
The skin of the scrotum is quite sensitive and can really turn a man on when touched. You should definitely keep the biting and nibbling at bay here though. Instead try sucking, licking, cupping or gently squeezing them, sex coach Charlie Glickman suggests. “Start with your hand around both balls, then bring your fingertips together over them – like you’re picking up a napkin off the floor,” another expert said.
Who doesn’t like their neck being kissed? Think about the tingles it sends through your body – it does the same for him. And the nape of his neck in the best place to focus, according to a study published in the journal Ergonomics. You should kiss him there with your mouth slightly open while humming. “The combination of heat and vibrations will help prompt some serious sensations for him,” sex expert Emily Morse explained. Or try using a vibrator to massage his hairline.
By now you’ve probably worked out that what works for you can also work for him. In a recent survey for the journal Cortex, men admitted that nipples were one of their top spots for stimulation. Carol suggests gently sucking or licking a nipple while touching your man down there for extra pleasure.
6. The shaft
You’re probably already focusing on the penis to get him in the mood. But how you touch it can make all the difference. According to a survey published in the BMJ men rate having the top of their shaft touched. And when it comes to how much pressure to give your grip – sexperts suggest it needs to be fairly firm. That’s because the erectile tissue sits fairly deep beneath the skin, so a good amount of pressure is needed.
7. The tip
The tip of the penis, called the glans, has a lot of nerves – more than the shaft, in fact. It’s the closest thing to a clitoris a man has. So whether you are using your hands or engaging in oral sex, be sure to focus some attention here.
8. His bum
Men have a G-spot too – it’s the prostate gland located about a finger’s length inside the bum. Not every man will want you to stimulate it though, so check with your partner before you stick anything anywhere. But if they are up for it, it can be quite an experience for them.
9. The perineum
You know, that bit of skin between the balls and his bum? This area contains his ejaculatory muscles, so when you massage them it can make his climax even more intense. You can try touching it while you give him oral sex.